When opportunities arise, you have to take advantage of them.
You cannot wait for the approval of others for you to exist. You already do.
You don't have the "luxury" to miss the opportunity to thrive.
It's YOUR chance and it will be you who is stuck with the rewards or consequences of your actions.
Not those who demand or expect you to gain their permission to do something.
This has to be your own decision.
Opportunities don't wait, they dissipate like the mist.
Time fleets on.
Time does not change people. People have to make their decisions regardless.
Later, when people question you - actions speak louder, VOLUMES louder than words.
If you dated the right person because you took the opportunity.
If you passed the exam, won the race, got yourself through college, got the job, got the promotion, get healthy and fit-
Those who expect you to get their permission don't have enough to compensate for "opportunity costs". They don't have the ability to grant you any more time that you lost accommodating THEIR inhibitions.
If they are intimidated, they have to figure it out. You are not the cause of their problems, therefore it is not your responsibility to fix it and it would be stupid for anyone to hurt others expecting it to solve their problems.
People have gone through entire lifetimes and centuries without fixing problems and nothing gets better. So obviously the "punishment" is a nasty unnecessary power trip.
People confuse thriving on negativity for power.
They have to chose to fix the problem.
If they impose undesirable consequences on others which is not going to fix their problems, what's the prize? For either party?
And you.
When someone says, "why didn't you take that class?"
Why didn't you apply for that position?
It only reflects on you, not the "influence" who used social power that you voluntarily gave to them to make your decisions for you.
On the contrary. don't wait for things to happen to you. They say, "good things come in time".
This quote is missing the quintessential, "the ball has to be rolling somewhere in the right direction for good things to happen".
I personally find the Manifest Destiny people to be hyperarrogant assholes with a complex and the insane desire to condescend for a power trip.
Back during my first job out of college, the team lead had repercussions with a brain tumor he eventually lost his battle to. He was getting on my case about being a "health nut" because he had to be (according to what the "status quo" accepts as good information-is something I contradict but I'll get to that tangent one of these days)....he did all of the right things and he still, unfortunately lost his battle to cancer maybe a year or two later. Did he deserve it? NO. The punishment didn't fit the crime.
What sucks about this is that people don't judge on what they do but only the results. It's SUPPOSED to work out, but it doesn't. In order to be a legit judge of character, people need to consider the decisions, insight, actions, objective and situation. It's too hard for the negative people.
Also, it is not a shame to indulge in the rewards alone. That part confused me. I thought people would celebrate my success for the trouble I was caused. Oh, I was so wrong- they were not there when I needed them- they were not there when I needed someone to celebrate with. What was even more disappointing is that the people who posed as confident, self assured, "true blue" pals are actors. They are not confident.
Case in point. After I got my degree and some creds- others from high school(WHO CAME FROM MUCH MORE THAN WHAT I HAD) decided only then to go after their Masters. I can't afford to go after my masters. Envy is their only motivation. These are the people I supported as a friend or peer but they were not there for me. None of them were. I don't know that I was ever a threat to them or when it happened. I had to take my chances. They chose not to.
If I didn't take myself out to Malibu yesterday- nobody would've taken me. Those who would - they were able to go home back east. My family's roots are in California.
One friend was nice enough to treat me to Starbucks. I like Starbucks and Turkish coffee. I'm treated better when I'm courted. People wonder why some of us are not "loyal". Loyalty is a two way street.
I NEED to get good thoughts into my head and enjoy life at least a little- and this was so harmless.
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