dovete prendere le opportunità quando vengono

When opportunities arise, you have to take advantage of them.
You cannot wait for the approval of others for you to exist.  You already do.
You don't have the "luxury" to miss the opportunity to thrive.
It's YOUR chance and it will be you who is stuck with the rewards or consequences of your actions.
Not those who demand or expect you to gain their permission to do something.
This has to be your own decision.

Opportunities don't wait, they dissipate like the mist.
Time fleets on.
Time does not change people.  People have to make their decisions regardless.

Later, when people question you - actions speak louder, VOLUMES louder than words.

If you dated the right person because you took the opportunity.
If you passed the exam, won the race, got yourself through college, got the job, got the promotion, get healthy and fit-

Those who expect you to get their permission don't have enough to compensate for "opportunity costs".   They don't have the ability to grant you any more time that you lost accommodating THEIR inhibitions.

If they are intimidated, they have to figure it out.   You are not the cause of their problems, therefore it is not your responsibility to fix it and it would be stupid for anyone to hurt others expecting it to solve their problems.

People have gone through entire lifetimes and centuries without fixing problems and nothing gets better.  So obviously the "punishment" is a nasty unnecessary power trip.

People confuse thriving on negativity for power.

They have to chose to fix the problem.

If they impose undesirable consequences on others which is not going to fix their problems, what's the prize?  For either party?

And you.

When someone says, "why didn't you take that class?"
Why didn't you apply for that position?

It only reflects on you, not the "influence" who used social power that you voluntarily gave to them to make your decisions for you.

On the contrary. don't wait for things to happen to you.  They say, "good things come in time".
This quote is missing the quintessential, "the ball has to be rolling somewhere in the right direction for good things to happen".

I personally find the Manifest Destiny people to be hyperarrogant assholes with a complex and the insane desire to condescend for a power trip.

Back during my first job out of college, the team lead had repercussions with a brain tumor he eventually lost his battle to.  He was getting on my case about being a "health nut" because he had to be (according to what the "status quo" accepts as good information-is something I contradict but I'll get to that tangent one of these days)....he did all of the right things and he still, unfortunately lost his battle to cancer maybe a year or two later.  Did he deserve it?  NO.  The punishment didn't fit the crime.

What sucks about this is that people don't judge on what they do but only the results.  It's SUPPOSED to work out, but it doesn't.  In order to be a legit judge of character, people need to consider the decisions, insight, actions, objective and situation.  It's too hard for the negative people.

Also, it is not a shame to indulge in the rewards alone.  That part confused me.  I thought people would celebrate my success for the trouble I was caused.  Oh, I was so wrong- they were not there when I needed them- they were not there when I needed someone to celebrate with.  What was even more disappointing is that the people who posed as confident, self assured, "true blue" pals are actors.  They are not confident.

Case in point.  After I got my degree and some creds- others from high school(WHO CAME FROM MUCH MORE THAN WHAT I HAD) decided only then to go after their Masters.  I can't afford to go after my masters.  Envy is their only motivation.   These are the people I supported as a friend or peer but they were not there for me.  None of them were.   I don't know that I was ever a threat to them or when it happened.  I had to take my chances.  They chose not to.

If I didn't take myself out to Malibu yesterday- nobody would've taken me.  Those who would - they were able to go home back east.  My family's roots are in California.
One friend was nice enough to treat me to Starbucks.  I like Starbucks and Turkish coffee.  I'm treated better when I'm courted.  People wonder why some of us are not "loyal".  Loyalty is a two way street.

I NEED to get good thoughts into my head and enjoy life at least a little- and this was so  harmless.

What's the point of being a sycophant when the status quo isn't holding up standards?

What's the point?  We are all social creatures and assimilation is probably just natural.


And probably the only time when people don't assimilate is when we can't.  Because the social and other repercussions are not desirable.
It's not always financial.

The business of exploiting insecurities is as old as Beatlemania.  It's a proven sales tactic.  This makes it easier for vendors to take someone's money in exchange for something of lesser value.

In the western hemisphere, it's assumed that people like themselves to find themselves worthy enough for quality?  In the Eastern Hemisphere, it's a culture of obedience.

On August 13th, 1971, Nixon took the US off of the Gold Standard.
Right away, Japan began hoarding U.S. Treasuries to drag the value of the Yen down with it.

That same day,  Yoko Ono entered the U.S. with a B2 Visa.
From Japan.

Hmmm.....https://books.google.com/books?id=wqw2ztqrcgMC&lpg=PT19&ots=G33x8cf8Z5&dq=john%20lennon%20august%2013%201971&pg=PT19#v=onepage&q=john%20lennon%20august%2013%201971&f=false

My Thug Tiger Mom Physically Attacks me for my 40th Birthday

I can't even believe that I'm 40 and after all of the stupid bullshit I put up with and the hard work, effort- the Boomer Utopia in the U.S. circa 2015 is beyond a fucking disappointment.
The economy is hell and everything like shelter is unaffordable in a corrupt, dirty drug infested shithole run over by self loathing assholes.  And I'm FORCED to deal with my parents to avoid being on the streets.

I was sickened because I was poisoned because the corrupt FDA, AMA and CDC didn't do their jobs.
(rbST and rbGH are poison, Bristol Myers Squibb is run by homicidal sociopaths per metformin and the "healthcare" sector is only muggers).

I was discriminated against in the job market AND in housing with a horrible foreign name in a racist shithole with ugly nasty gross ugly racists.

I didn't ask to grow up with racists and thugs in my own family when I was held to high standards with a death grip and an iron fist.

So I can be rejected for not having an American name by some stupid Nazi tweaker bitch from Simi Valley and elsewhere.

My asshole prejudiced loser violent thuggie bully baby beating bitches blood thirsty backstabbing sycophant (parents) blamed ME for every thing that happened to me.

I was beaten because my stupid tiger mom from South Korea survived a war?  She "grew up poor" so that's her excuse to go gambling and steal from people to be "generous" to her relatives.  To "save face".

She was "lucky to be in America because Mao was evil" so she celebrated that by being violent.
She's a fucking liar.  To this day I don't believe that Mao existed.   The Korean immigrants at least in my own family use the same scripted line of bullshit.  They're lying if they say only one rehearsed sentence without supporting statements.

So when I tried to do nice things for my parents or spend time with them when I was doing better- they wouldn't.  They resented me.   So for my mom to get in my face (grabbing my wrists and pushing my arms)- she has no to accuse me of not appreciating her because the offer was there.

They resent me.  Everytime sister and I had something good going on and she had access to it, she got in the middle, made it miserable for us and ruined it.   I only get one day out of the year and I couldn't get a break.

I don't care to get a lot of things because It's blatently STUPID to place the blame for everything in the world on one girl that you chose to bring into the world.

Normally she stalks me in the kitchen when I make my coffee in the morning, and I try to ignore her. Tiger crazy psycho mom acts as if she just wants a conversation when she wants to fight.

On my birthday, I let my guard down.  Then she started with the emotional blackmail, etc. and I told her, "it wasn't worth it.  the trouble I went through in my life- it wasn't worth it."

She flipped out, accused me of being ungrateful,etc.  grabbed me by the wrists and physically started pushing me when I threatened to call the cops.  This was a physical attack on me by my 60something mother.  And i know better than to hurt her because she is so old.

Psycho racist tweaker trash lady is the same way- she has A LOT of nerve for someone who could be in the hospital recovering from a hip fracture for 6 years- esp after doing so many nasty drugs.

My asshole dad is the most demanding pos EVER.  First, when you stick someone in a racist country with a foreign name, the racism is real.   Fuck you Dad for not believing me or defending the baby that you beat up on?  When I suffer for your bullshit idealism.

I didn't ask to be born and if I had a choice, I would rather NOT exist and not be a U.S. citizen.  There's nothing in life beautiful enough to justify the hell I've been through.  JERK.  TRASH.  GARBAGE!

Especially when I should have been able to protect myself from that raunchy racist tweaker landlady in Santa Barbara.   You gave your white countrymen and authorities WAY too much credit at my expense and  you fucking owe me.  I don't care if you have a feminine name?  Fucking crybaby roid raging bitchboy - oh noes, Mr. White Privileged in a white country was never harassed.  You were afraid of my stupid thug sister when she attacked me in high school.  You were afraid of my tweaker racist garbage methhead landlady.  But you were not afraid to beat a baby or throw your own daughter out for dating someone at 19?   It was Ohio, what else was there to do?   Oh you just wanted to run my life so I can die on a garbage draft dodgers stupid oil war so their petrodollars can finance a dangerous real estate ponzi scheme because teh boomer ding dongs are threatened by 'new money'.

Fuck you for trying to throw me away in a war when I was really sick.   To be screamed at in MEPS for stepping outside for a minute.  After I was rejected.

Fuck you for forcing me to pour cement in the heat when I was sick.  I wouldn't demand that of you when you are in pain.  But you're the parasite asshole who only matters and nobody else.  WE all exist for you and care not for anyone else.   You must be so great to deserve this.  White privledge must be grand.  Racist shithead blood thirsty back stabbing sycophant bitch boy.

I was never the beneficiary of unconditional love and tolerance and acceptance.  The biracial marraige was a false front for tolerance.